I usually don’t
comment about divisive political things. I never have liked confrontation and
have almost always been the one to back down during one. I have tended to keep
my head down and my opinions to myself.
Oh, I could be outspoken about certain things, but they were mostly
generic and didn’t have much of a cost associated in with siding with it. Well, then along came two strong,
independent, outspoken women into my life.
My daughters. They began pointing things out to me. Things that were
wrong. Things that were disrespectful to
women. Things that were unfair to people of color. Things that have been the
status quo for so long, you just don’t even think that much about them
anymore. At first, I would balk and try
to say “well that was just the time, then” or “it’s just a movie” But as time went on, it really started to
bother me. Watching old movies or TV
shows with their depiction of minorities and women…it was brutal! Not funny or entertaining. But they were just movies. Not a big deal to give up or make a big stink
about.
Roll forward to the woman’s march last year. I was shocked at some of the things that I saw posted about it. How awful women were treating other women. So I said something. Just a small Facebook post with a link to a very well written article. I got some very nice feedback and a little backlash, but not too bad. I think a lot of friends just didn’t comment. And that’s okay.
Roll forward to the woman’s march last year. I was shocked at some of the things that I saw posted about it. How awful women were treating other women. So I said something. Just a small Facebook post with a link to a very well written article. I got some very nice feedback and a little backlash, but not too bad. I think a lot of friends just didn’t comment. And that’s okay.
Now we move
into this year. I am now the grandmother to three beautiful granddaughters. So now I am being looked at by more women. And Donald Trump is elected President. I was
blindsided, as I think a lot of people were.
How could we as a civilized society put someone who has such disdain for
women, in control of the country? But again,
I kept my head down. This issue would
divide my family if I started getting outspoken about it. There are members of my family who are sure
that he is the best thing for our country.
Only time will tell with that, although the first 8 months have been
disappointing in some ways and downright scary in others.
And then
Colin Kaepernick took a knee. I didn’t really
pay attention at first. But as time wore
on and the more I read and talked to people, it started feeling like this was
going to be an instance of needing to speak up.
I read a couple of interesting articles recently, and it brought more of
the controversy into perspective.
In an article
in the NY Times, a reporter spoke to fans at different games around the country
this past Sunday. Here are some of the
remarks;
“Football is
such an escape, no one should be politicizing it. Why is the president commenting on the
N.F.L.? Doesn’t he have bigger things to think about?” “This is unfair to the fans. I didn’t come
here to deal with this.”
“If you want
to protest, go somewhere else. I think if they did it in a different platform,
more people would listen.”
One fan said
she did not like the protests. “It’s a football game,” she said. “They’re here
to play the game. Maybe after they retire they can go into politics like a lot
of them do.” Sports is meant to be a
departure.”
My question would
be, where or when exactly would it be convenient for you to have them protest? These kinds of comments fall into the same category
as those who protest when an actor will use the stage at an award ceremony to
speak up about something that they are concerned about. “You’re not paid to give me your opinion,
just act and do your job and keep your opinions to yourself”
“No one cares what some liberal actor in Hollywood thinks." Well the last time I checked, those actors were American citizens, and so are those football players.
And here’s the thing, freedom of speech is for everyone in this country. Not just those who share the same opinion. Not just those who work blue collar jobs. Not just those who vote for a specific party. Everyone. And it you want the benefit of the freedoms granted to you in our constitution, then you have to realize that they are there for every other citizen of this country.
But there were other opinions in that article as well;
“No one cares what some liberal actor in Hollywood thinks." Well the last time I checked, those actors were American citizens, and so are those football players.
And here’s the thing, freedom of speech is for everyone in this country. Not just those who share the same opinion. Not just those who work blue collar jobs. Not just those who vote for a specific party. Everyone. And it you want the benefit of the freedoms granted to you in our constitution, then you have to realize that they are there for every other citizen of this country.
But there were other opinions in that article as well;
“Kneeling was
a respectful act, done quietly and not interfering with anyone else’s rights.”
“They’re
protesting because people are dying,” said Jesse Melendez, 29, of Dix Hills,
N.Y. “People don’t get mad when people are shot or killed, but they’re getting
mad because a football player is kneeling. The double standard is crazy.”
“As far as
I’m concerned, that’s why I’m in the military, to give him the right to express
himself any way he wants to, short of yelling ‘fire!’ in a crowded theater,”
“Kneeling as
a protest is unobtrusive, nonviolent, it’s a silent protest. Silent but
visual.”
Jay Kemp, a
former Marine who was with his family at a fan fest near the Charlotte stadium,
said he personally would not take a knee during the national anthem but said he
fought for the right of anyone else to do so. “I find it hard to swallow that
the president would attack professional athletes for their freedom of speech,
and a freedom that I spent 21 years protecting,” Mr. Kemp said. “They could be
exercising their freedom of speech to promote hate or promote something else.
But they’re doing it in a nonviolent fashion and they’re exercising their
right.” Besides, he said, kneeling is not about disrespecting the country.
“It’s a
protest against police brutality and racism,” he said. And it has inspired him
to teach his son, who is 7, to stand up for what he believes is right.
Eric Reid,
teammate of Colin Kaepernick spoke on why he chose to kneel with his teammate.
“We spoke at
length about many of the issues that face our community, including systemic
oppression against people of color, police brutality and the criminal justice
system. We also discussed how we could use our platform, provided to us by
being professional athletes in the N.F.L., to speak for those who are
voiceless.”
“After hours
of careful consideration, and even a visit from Nate Boyer, a retired Green
Beret and former N.F.L. player, we came to the conclusion that we should kneel,
rather than sit, the next day during the anthem as a peaceful protest. We chose
to kneel because it’s a respectful gesture. I remember thinking our posture was
like a flag flown at half-mast to mark a tragedy.”
“It baffles
me that our protest is still being misconstrued as disrespectful to the
country, flag and military personnel. We chose it because it’s exactly the
opposite. It has always been my understanding that the brave men and women who
fought and died for our country did so to ensure that we could live in a fair
and free society, which includes the right to speak out in protest. It should
go without saying that I love my country and I’m proud to be an American. But,
to quote James Baldwin, ‘exactly for this reason, I insist on the right to
criticize her perpetually.’”
He finished
the article by saying that he wants to be a man who is remembered for standing
up for what was right, even though it was not the popular or easy choice. He quoted Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., saying
“A time comes when silence is betrayal.”
I have 5
strong women in my family, watching me.
Waiting to see if I will be silent. I want to be remembered for standing
up for what is right, even though it may not be popular or easy.
I know that some people will not be happy with my stance on this issue. That's okay. I love them anyway. My hope would be that in continuing the conversation, we can find more common ground and maybe a way through the divisiveness that is becoming so pervasive in our country. I may lose some friends on Facebook, but I hope that I will have made the women in my life proud.